The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy

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But as the economy worsened and the job market shrivelled, the gloss came off the workfare model. Research has found that many of those pushed into low-paid work have not been lifted out of poverty, while for those families who found themselves without work or a welfare safety net the result has been destitution. JSG: Alright, so touch, we’re talking about physical touch here, and what we do know, from lots of research, especially by a woman named, Tiffany Field, in Florida, is that touch is as essential to our well-being as food, water, staying warm, staying dry. Touch is something we desperately need. And as babies, in fact, if we’re not held and touched a lot, it’s been shown in orphanages when babies are not held and touched, they’ll die, and they used to call it failure to thrive. But basically, it was that they were starving for touch and not getting it.

By distilling decades of research into seven simple strategies, their book can offer an intervention that is easy and fun. There are no hard conversations required . . . Each chapter introduces a specific relationship-building exercise that can help in any relationship stage . . . It reminded us that no matter how busy we get, we do actually have enough time to be kind to each other.” Dr. John Gottman began systematically observing couples in his first lab at the University of Illinois in the 1970s.JSG: Yeah. That’s right, that’s right. And Brené, I also really want to thank you for your work, your fabulous work on vulnerability which had never been looked at and described before, because only by being vulnerable ourselves, being brave, can we have real love. It’s impossible without being vulnerable, because if you’re not vulnerable with your partner, then it’s just two walls living in the same house across the breakfast table rather than two soft, mushy, messy, gorgeous, beautiful human beings. And the second is much better than the first. Of course, all relationships suffer ups and downs, regardless of whether both partners have a high EQ. But partnerships where both people have high EQs are more likely to weather the storms of life with grace, closeness and grit. They are more likely to be a team facing life's obstacles together than the causes of each other's strife. What causes low EQ?

No matter who you are, or what kind of relationship you want to strengthen, The Seven-Day Love Prescription is guaranteed to provide you with the practical tools to transform any relationship in your life for the better. The Gottmans prove that small frequent changes over just seven days can strengthen the foundations of all relationships, allow them to flourish, and create big, long-lasting change over time. BB: I know we want to be more different, but we are emotional beings, and we’re a social species. It just… The needs are the needs are the needs. Alright, last one. Declare a date night.BB: And so, we talked a little bit about that, reaching out and touching, what does that mean and what does it not mean?

The classic guide to love, sex, and intimacy beyond the limits of conventional monogamy has been fully updated to reflect today’s modern attitudes and the latest information on nontraditional relationships. JSG: So, we think, “Well, as adults, we shouldn’t need what kids need,” but the reality is, that’s totally wrong. We have that infant, that child, that young adult, big adult, all inside of us and all of them need touch. So, it’s one of the most soothing things to be touched, it lowers stress. It lowers anxiety, it improves depression, and I’m not necessarily talking about erotic touch here, but affectionate touch. It’s fabulous. We saw in a study of ours, with new parents who were having babies, that 15 minutes of a husband massaging the shoulders of a wife reduced postpartum depression in the women who were massaged. It was incredible. So, we need touch. We got to give touch. That’s the moral. The astute guidance is straightforward without being obvious, and the authors excel at distilling sharp lessons from client stories. Couples should consider making this enlightening guide required reading.” —Publishers Weekly (starred review) About the AuthorsThere's a phrase that goes: "People who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones." When we believe our partner has a low EQ, it's easy to start blaming them for any problems in the relationship, but this isn't productive.